
Kate Brown, Oregon Secretary of State. Kate Clinton, stand-up comedienne. Ellen DeGeneres, actress and television host. Melissa Etheridge, rock singer. Rosie Jones, golfer. Martina Navratilova, tennis player. Cynthia Nixon, actress. Rosie O’Donnell, television host. Suze Orman, financial advisor and motivational speaker. Guinevere Turner, producer. Cat Cora, chef. Annie Leibowitz, photographer. Denise Simmons, former mayor of Cambridge, Massachusetts. Sheryil Swoopes, basketball player. Linda Villarosa, journalist. Alice Walker, writer. These are just a few names of lesbians who are out and proud in the USA and other parts of the world.
Us lesbians, we are used to watching movies or TV shows, or to reading books and magazines which feature only straight people, with the random gay man appearing from time to time. We have been doing so forever, and our enthusiasm when some woman loving is suggested is so great that we immediately become the biggest fans of the film or novel in question. Years of experience have trained us well to read between the lines, finding Sapphic clues everywhere. Sometimes we are right, like when many of us fell in love with Idgie, the tomboy on Fried Green Tomatoes, brilliantly played by Mary Stuart Masterson, and then the book (which we all bought and gave to our girlfriends on their birthdays) confirmed that what is only an insinuation in the film, is a beautiful love story between two women in the novel by Fannie Flagg. Sometimes we are wrong, like when we were convinced that Ani DiFranco was into girls and then she got married to that guy from her band and had a baby with him. Ah, why didn’t we stick to the reliable Indigo Girls?
New York City, early nineties. I am a lonely fifteen-year old roaming the streets while my immigrant brother, whom I am visiting for the summer, works at the downtown hotel where I meet him every day for a quick lunch and a trip back to his house in the suburbs. It doesn’t take long before I fall in love with the chaos, the coffee to go –impossible to find in Spain back then-, the colorful crowd and the immense bookstores.
Women. Brunettes. Blondes. Gingers. Auburns. Shy. Outgoing. Free. Guilty. Happy. Brave. Resigned. Proud. Blind. Sensitive. Awake. Women who are just what society allowed them to be. Women who make themselves every day. Women who change the world and women who don’t believe they are strong. Women who love women. Women who love men. Women who can’t even love themselves.